Healing

A painful awakening

A growing tide of unanticipated grief and craving for true intimacy is sweeping along untouched shores with increasing recognition.  There is a very real pain that parents experience when they make a choice to reject life, a decision that can be rooted in the widespread practice of contraception and sterilization.  Although not yet acknowledged in mainstream society, we see this pain surfacing increasingly among women and men who come to regret the use of abortifacient devices and pills as well as sterilization procedures that destroy the gift of fertility…

…When people come to learn the truth about these methods of birth control, many express guilt, grief, and anger that their wombs were made an unwelcome environment for their developing child at its earliest time of life.  Many women who realize they have spent years denying the gift of life because of their dependence on chemical or surgical methods of contraception feel a genuine sense of loss and grief.

–excerpts from Theresa Burke’s “Contraception of Grief”

Are you hurting?

There are many side effects to contraception and sterilization: physical, mental, emotional, and most of all spiritual–too many to list succinctly here.

If you’ve had  a mysterious–or even not so mysterious–health issue, and the doctors could not pinpoint the likely cause, your contraception could be making you sick, sometimes in a very serious, even lethal way.

Beyond the physical side effects, contraception and sterilization, in affecting  your normal hormonal processes, can also have serious emotional and mental side effects. This can have potentially devistating affects on men and women, especially in relationships between men and women.

For the believer, contraception seriously affects one’s relationship with God. The more one fully understands the gravity of contracepting before the act, the more fully culpable a person or couple is. The more culpable someone is, the more grave the sin is. You can even be completely cut off from God’s sanctifying grace. However, there’s redemption, hope in forgiveness. For Catholics, this shines in the sacrament of reconciliation.